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Student Opinion Column: How to Deal with Ex-Boyfriends

by Hannah Johnson, senior at Leigh High School on April 03, 2017

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Dating in high school can be a wonderful thing. It opens you to the idea of loving someone for the rest of your life, if that’s what you really want. But not all relationships are going to end in that long-lasting love. Trust me, I would know.

I’ve had some pretty rough experiences with ex’s, so I consider myself to be a true ex-boyfriend guru. I’ve developed a list of Do’s and Don’ts when it comes to ex’s.

            The first and most important piece of advice: DO NOT TRY TO BE FRIENDS. Whatever you do, this is never a good idea. It’s going to cause many problems to arise in the near future. If you still have feelings for them, trying to be their friend is just going to open new wounds, so honey, move on.

Another thing is, do not talk trash about them…unless they deserve it. Some of my ex’s should pay attention to this one. Relationships aren’t always going to work out, and if your ex left you because they were unhappy or you two were simply incompatible, then they did the right thing. However, it’s a different story if you found out you had been cheated on or anything else bad.  Then by all means, yap away.

Finally, the third piece of advice is don’t dwell. Don’t sit and think about whether you made the right decision, or whether they still had feelings for you. Chances are, if you had been unhappy for a long time, you had probably made the right decision. So don’t second guess yourself.

Love is a tricky thing when you’re young. But I often tell myself to think of it as a test drive. You won’t know what kind of car you want until you’ve taken it out on the road, so try and get yourself out there.